I feel like this has been the theme of my life lately. I closed my business 20 months ago. The reasons could be a blog all by itself. However, I’d rather delve into today and not look back. I know I’m not alone in saying that I want to be better today than I was […]
I feel like this has been the theme of my life lately. I closed my business 20 months ago. The reasons could be a blog all by itself. However, I’d rather delve into today and not look back.
I know I’m not alone in saying that I want to be better today than I was yesterday. I’m seeking something that will enhance, not take over my life. I have a Husband, two adult children and a God who has been very good to me. I do not have any desperate needs. I do have a few things I wish for, but don’t we all?
I’ve looked at returning to work outside the home. I even have applications, but I have not filled them out. I’ve been a manager and I’ve owned sucessful businesses. The reality is that I can no longer work for someone else. I listen to my family and friends describe their jobs and the business they work for and I criticize the businesses. Most are understaffed, employees are underpaid, most cannot take a vacation because they are the only ones that can do the jobs correctly. I do not have the education to be a business consultant, nor would I be hired as one but I would act like one if hired in another position. I would not last long.
I am ready to start a new business venture. There are a few things I need to wrap up in my personal life before I begin. I’m determined to make this happen. Googling “best start up online businesses for women 2019,” has given me something to think about, however nothing has really jumped out.
I may not know what I’m doing or what I’m looking for but I do know one thing. #JewelsforthePauper will be the company’s name. It is a versatile hashtag that I’m not ready to let go. It’s like a comfortable pair of shoes that are familiar but never wear out.
Train travel has not been the main mode of transportation since the 1800’s. Many people have never ridden on a train, much less checked into travel rates. Perhaps this blog will make you reconsider. There are so many advantages to train travel that are often overlooked. Here are just a few reasons to consider.
The cost of train travel is much less than booking a flight, no matter where in the continental United States you wish to go. You can literally travel from Atlantic to Pacific and almost all points in between. For instance, a flight from Central Illinois to Michigan’s capital is $330 round trip on a weekday. The train is $95 round trip on a weekday. This is a substantial savings!
Sightseeing is another plus. You cannot see anything as you look out the windows of a plane; but, imagine the sites you can see while riding on a train. Often, it takes a different route than your car would. If you’re driving, you cannot take your eyes off the road.
Many times, the train will stop at a major hub allowing you to get out and stretch your legs. If you have a layover, the train station is often a historical building with restaurants, bars and quiet waiting rooms, All have places to lock up your luggage for up to 24 hours.
Speaking of luggage, you are not charged for two bags, under 50 lbs. Most airlines charge you for anything other than carry on. The savings can be substantial.
The comfort of the seats is superior than that of a plane or car. Most recline all the way to a sleeping position and are much roomier. There are sleeping cars for trans-continental travel.
Last is the ease of using your electronics. Each seat has a fold out table in which to work or eat on. Beside that are one or two outlets to plug-in and charge your electronic devices. All trains have free public wifi.
If you’ve never taken a train to travel, I urge you to check it out for your next trip. Besides all of the reasons listed above, think of how relaxing it would be. While traveling to your destination, you’re able to see the sights, read a book or even take a nap. Don’t try doing this the next time you drive!
nap. Don’t try doing this the next time you drive!
What should you do when asked to clear someone else’s hoard?
~Asking For A Friend
Dear “Asking For A Friend,”
So, you’ve been asked to help a relative or friend, clear their clutter. You honestly want to help but you’re afraid you’ll end up being banned from Thanksgiving or the next outing with the girls. There are ways to help if you stay within some boundaries. Here are some things I’ve found helpful when asked to help with this task.
- Ask what your job will be. Will it be opening the boxes and setting it in front of the person so that they can decide what to do? Will it be opening boxes and sorting? Will you be given free rein and you’ll both be doing the same job, which means it will go twice as fast?
- Ask what the expected outcome will be. Is this a deep cleaning where the room will be emptied? Is this more like sorting unwanted items.
- Will items be donated? This is important. You need to know which place you will be donating to. What are their regulations and limitations on donations? Last, a clear definition of what you both feel would be a donation or should be thrown away.
- Will items only be thrown away if not kept? This is not optimal. If the person is against donating, you need to agree on clear rules of what is considered no longer wanted and goes to the trash.
- Try very hard not to accept “gifts,” of items no longer needed. It sounds tempting and you probably believe you could use it. If you’re dealing with clutter of your own, this will just make it worse.
- Have a plan for heavy items. Do not try lifting these items on your own or with your friend. Call for back up. If one or both of you gets hurt, the job will never be finished.
- How much time does your friend need to clean up? Will you be firm in limiting your time to a few hours, a day, a week, until it’s done? This is so much better than the two of you assuming something different and hurt feelings in the end.
This is just a basic list. I am sure you can come up with many more questions, inquiries and limitations. What is so important is that there is a discussion and there is an agreement.
Without either, you could lose your place at the Thanksgiving table or the next girls only outing.
Fidget mats, blankets, pillows and aprons are all tactile ways to keep an Alzheimer’s or Dementia patient busy throughout the day. They can be used to help them cope with new surroundings such as a Doctor’s office. Depending on the stage of the disease, it can provide comfort with familiar items. In the latter stages, it provides a way to keep fingers busy with a variety soft and squeezable items.
Fidget Aprons have gained favor in the caregiving community because of it’s ease to take on and off, they don’t fall on the floor and there is a lot more space for items than a simple fidget mat. The true beauty of the fidget apron is that there is no real pattern or instructions on how one should be made or what components it should have. Some of the most important components are:
- Everything attached permanently must be durable and machine washable. Items that cannot be run through the washer need to be attached using key rings or D-rings.
- Recognizable tasks are important, such as a nylon zipper, belt buckle, ribbon to tie a bow, pocket with handkerchief, or cord for braiding.
- Repetitive tasks, such as beads, buttons.
- Involuntary tasks such as touch are extremely important. Minky, lace, crochet, corduroy, rickrack are just some examples.
There is no right or wrong way to make a fidget apron. You are only limited by your imagination. I highly recommend Pinterest to give you a start at making your first one.
Let’s face it, Mondays are usually the day of the week that people generally don’t look forward to. The cause could be a job you’d like to quit, a boss you want to ignore, a car that needs fixed, the children don’t want to go back to school. I know I could keep going. I’m sure you get the point. It is really hard to have any attitude that is filled with gratitude when we have so much on our plates.
Today, I was driving home from an appointment and this subject came up on the radio station I listen to (EWTN). Why are we so disheartened when there is so much to be grateful for? People were calling in and telling what they are grateful for and how just being grateful seemed to change their attitude about Monday’s in general.
I know what you are thinking. It’s hard to be grateful with everything that is going on around us. Hurricane Florence, Supreme Court Nominee, The Roman Catholic Church and Politics to name just a few items that were on the news all week-long. It’s almost like you want to raise your hand and ask permission to leave, with no set place to go.
Most of us have been through health, money issues or came close to some sort of disaster. At one point in my life, I was a divorce with two kids, running an at home daycare. My ex had lost his job, so there was no alimony or child-support check. I remember one Monday when I was wondering how I would make it through the week with all of my children’s needs, forgetting my own. I had an epiphany of sorts that I want to share with you.
I had put the kids down for a nap and started walking through the house. What did I need to do to make it to pay-day. It was then that I realized I needed to do nothing but do my job and be a mother. Huh?
- My electricity, water, gas and phone were on and I had no shut-off notices threatening that status.
- My car was in good repair, it had gas and the insurance was paid.
- I had just enough food (milk, bread, eggs. bologna, hot dogs, macaroni & cheese and oatmeal to name a few) to feed all of the kids, including my own.
- I had a garden full of vegetables.
- I had my health.
There are many entrepreneurs who have stories just like this and worse. It made you humble. It made you grateful for what you had, instead of despondent over what you don’t have. You realize you can live on less and have more. You also begin feeling a bit less frustrated and have an attitude of gratitude.
In a world that seems to be coming apart at the seams, sometimes all you need to do is be grateful for the bounty that you have.
Last year I wrote a Blog about my Happy Planner. If you don’t know what one is, just Google it. When I did my blog, I thought they were sold specifically at Michael’s. In the last week, I’ve seen them at JoAnn Fabrics and was told that select ones are 70% off at Target.
I was a planner gal way back in the 1980’s when you actually mail ordered these books. The company (At A Glance) would mail you next year’s in October, along with any other type of sheets. It was very business-like. No stickers. It was a 5 ring binder that totally organized your business life, and let you squeeze in a bit of your personal life. You literally had only 3 choices of leatherette colors.
Today there are so many types of planners, that you can find one to fit any lifestyle. I chose The Happy Planner for quite a few reasons. The first was that I could make it any way I wished. You can simply slip sheets in and out to organize it the way you wish. You can focus on a year, a month, a week or even a day on one sheet. There are many sticker books available on just about any subject you can think of as well as page markers, craft tape and other accessories.
I have chosen to focus a week at a time, on 2 pages. I also insert a blank page in between so I can journal daily. Each Sunday, I take time out to organize the upcoming week. It takes about 30 minutes, and saves me a lot of time and anxiety.
First thing I do is decide on the week’s theme. The stickers you buy, along with the crafting tape help you do this. I focused on Being Grateful with my religious sticker pack and coordinated the colors (orange this week) with crafting tape. I like writing with gel pens, so I use a color that is highlighted in the tape (brown this week). It just so happens that all are fall colors.
After setting my week up, I look to see what this week’s activities are. For instance this week, my husband has a meeting this Tuesday night which means we will need to have a crock pot meal that is ready as soon as he gets home. I have appointments on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday morning, so my meal prep will need to be done in the afternoon. I have found that deciding on your menu not only takes a lot of stress out of your week, but on busy nights dinner can be so easy. This week I learned I should also look at the weather when deciding on a meal, so my family isn’t eating mexican soup when it’s so hot and humid!
This week, we’ll have hot beef sandwiches, pork chops, leftovers (garbage night), Chicken Legs and 3 cheese Zita (meatless Friday). I make sure that Monday is easy and I have all of the ingredients for it. I make a list of items I will need throughout the week and will pick them up Tuesday, on my way home from Mass. No extra trips needed. No panic when 3pm hits and I don’t have dinner figured out. No missing ingredients or substitutes.
I realize that I am able to start dinner much easier than women who work outside the home. By planning, shopping for ingredients, and crock potting on busy nights this helps whenever you are able to be home and start a meal.
Lastly, I make attainable goals for the week. For instance, Laundry and light house cleaning is in my planner each Monday. I make easy goals for my business on Tuesday – Friday. All work will need to be done in the office due to the heat in the attic. I don’t think it’s too far out to think that I can have a prototype cut out by Friday afternoon. I write that down and decide what will need to be done Tuesday-Thursday in order to attain that goal. After writing that down, I literally have my week planned, right down to the last entrée.
The first time, it might take a couple of hours to complete all of this in your planner but it is well spent. If your life is chaos and you’re constantly on the move, a planner can make life so much easier. If your kids are older, you can encourage them to tell you each Sunday what activities they have. Don’t forget your husband’s schedule as well. This keeps chaos to a minimum if the whole family.
So the next weeknight, you find yourself standing there at 6:30pm with nothing defrosted and your child informing you he has a game at 7pm…. Remember that all of this could have gone better if you just taken 30 minutes and organized it in your happy planner.